A bride revealed her stepdad’s surprise wedding gift made everyone uncomfortable on her big day.

Taking to Reddit the newlywed, who is believed to be from the UK, explained she got married 18 months ago but still ‘can’t stop thinking about’ a surprise ‘singing chef’ during their reception. 

The bride said she was ‘completely confused the entire time’ as she wasn’t prepared for the performance and asked others if she was overreacting.

The couple were also frustrated, as the 30 minute performance threw off their carefully planned wedding schedule.

The post read: ‘My step dad decided to surprise my husband and I with a “surprise singing chef” during our wedding reception. 

‘Basically a guy came out in a chefs outfit and said he was working in the kitchen but wanted to sing us a song. Cue 30 minutes of singing and me and my husband being completely confused the entire time. 

‘We had zero idea what was happening and the entire wedding was planned with strict timeframes so it made everything super late, shortened the dance floor time and meant we couldn’t get sunset pictures as planned.’

However things appeared to get even worse when the singing chef sang the groom’s mother’s funeral song during the performance. 

A bride, from the UK, revealed her stepdad’s surprise wedding gift made everyone uncomfortable on her big day (stock image) 

She added: ‘We had briefed all vendors to not play this song but seeing as this vendor was not organised by us, he didn’t know. 

‘It was extremely triggering for my husbands family and everyone was in tears. Our guests were so confused and it really was very stressful and uncomfortable until the end when it was revealed it was a ‘surprise gift’ from my step dad. 

‘He didn’t even tell my mum what he was planning and she was mortified.’

The bride went on to say that while she and her husband and their guests ultimately enjoyed the rest of the evening, she still felt ‘rattled by the surprise chef debacle.’ 

She added: ‘Looking back now I really do feel like it took away from our special day and although it was meant as a nice gift, it didn’t work out that way. 

‘My stepdad also doesn’t know me very well as I genuinely hate surprises and we meticulously planned our wedding to reflect us and we would have never included a ‘singing chef’.

The bride concluded her post by asking the Reddit community whether she is ‘valid’ in feeling upset by the gift or should simply be grateful for the well-meaning gesture.

Many rushed to the comments and validated the brides feelings saying they too, would have been embarrassed and put off by the surprise.

Taking to Reddit the newlywed, who is believed to be from the UK, explained she got married 18 months ago but still ‘can’t stop thinking about’ a surprise ‘singing chef’ during their reception (stock image) 

One person wrote: ‘You’re so valid… I probably would have found someway to end it after one song because of the timeline. 

‘I don’t care how long he was paid for, or how much it costs. paying for “entertainment” at a wedding without consulting the bride and groom is a nightmare.’

The bride responded saying: ‘This is embarrassing, but because it was so unexpected and the venue staff were acting so chill I genuinely just had no idea what was going on for quite a few songs. 

‘I had never even heard of this type of “entertainment” before my wedding day. And then I asked the wedding venue manager to stop him but I think she thought I wasn’t serious?’

Another added: ‘1 funny, smaltzy song (maybe It’s Amore) would have been cute. 30 minutes was a ridiculous overstep’ 

Someone else agreed saying: ‘No, not at someone else’s wedding. He overstepped by a lot.’ 

Another added: ‘As a former wedding coordinator who had to stop an impromptu juggler at one of my clients weddings – your venue manager should have intervened! Absolutely bring it to their attention or at least find out why they didn’t assist.’ 

While agreeing that the bride’s stepdad made a major faux pas, several others encouraged her to let it go. 

One person said: ‘Yes it’s way too late to say something now. What would you say anyway? It already happened. And your mother had a word or two with him about this. 

‘It was really unfortunate that they played a highly triggering song for your husband’s entire family. Apart from that, maybe you’ll be able to look back on it 5 years from now with a sigh “Gee, my stepdad and his embarrassing, silly gift”.’ 

Another said: ‘Your feeling are your feelings so of course they are valid. Also, it’s been awhile, acknowledge to yourself that you didn’t love it and then move on to remembering all the good things about your day. Shift the focus, why let one not good thing ruin your memory.’ 

Someone else added: ‘Honestly, his intentions were kind, I’d bet. Can you reframe this in your mind to a funny story of a gift gone awry? Otherwise, you’re going to have heartburn for decades and unnecessary angst against someone who meant well.’