If you had a stepchild with a history of ruining nice things, would you be willing to lend them something to wear to their prom night?
This 40-year-old woman has a daughter who is 15, May, and a stepdaughter who is 17, June. Her husband is 42, and his name is Cameron.
Her stepdaughter, June, adores jewelry and never skips a day of wearing earrings, at a minimum. June’s dream is to work for a jeweler and become a gemologist.
She does think those are neat aspirations, but the issue is that June is very rough on her special rings, and she can’t figure out how this girl can wreck so much jewelry.
“I don’t know how she does it exactly, but gemstones pop out within a couple of weeks, the stones get scratched, and sometimes even the bands bend. It does not matter if it’s something cheap or something nice; it ends up damaged,” she explained.
“I’m not exaggerating when I say we’ve had multiple moments wondering where the stone of her more expensive rings had gone after she realized it fell out somewhere.”
“Cameron has paid to repair a couple, and after the sixth time, he basically said no more expensive rings until she figures out how to take better care of them.”
Although June has promised to show more consideration for her belongings in the future, she did admit that she never takes anything off when she gets in the shower, sleeps, participates in sports, or cleans the house.
Small side note: all of those activities are known to damage expensive jewelry. Anyway, she purchased a ring from a pawn shop a couple of years ago.
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It’s a silver band with moonstones and a purple colored sapphire. While it’s not super pricey, it’s one of her favorite things in her jewelry box, and she only puts it on for special occasions to make sure it stays in mint condition.
“June saw it a while back and fell in love with it because purple is her favorite color. Her prom dress is also purple, so she asked if she could wear it for prom,” she added.
“I told her no, and I tried to explain that I don’t trust that it would come back in the same condition, based on how her other rings have ended up.”
“I offered to help her pick out or even buy a similar ring for her to wear instead, something she could keep, but she got really upset and said that I was treating her like a little kid.”
Cameron wasted no time siding with her, but after June went off to her mom’s place for the weekend, June’s mom called her a cruel hoarder for not allowing June to borrow the ring.
Ever since then, Cameron has switched up and asked her to reassess her position on lending June the ring. Cameron stated that it’s just one evening and could be a moment for her to bond with June.
They actually got into an argument yesterday evening. Cameron argued that since June wants to make a career in jewelry, she should be uplifting her instead of gatekeeping the ring.
“I pointed out that part of working with jewelry is learning how to take care of it, which didn’t go over well. I keep going back and forth on whether I’m being reasonable or if I’m putting too much weight on past incidents when this is a special occasion with her almost being an adult by now, and it’s not like I would be handing it over to her forever,” she concluded.
She’s left wondering if she’s a jerk for not wanting to let June borrow her ring to wear to prom.
She should walk herself down to the nearest bank and get a safe deposit box to put that ring in. I wouldn’t put it past June or Cameron to swipe it so June can have it for prom.
And if Cameron and June’s mom are so upset about it, they can go out and spend their own money on a comparable ring for June to wear.
What advice do you have for her?
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